Got Love? Got Unconditional Love? We’ve all searched for love and thought we’d found it. We’ve enjoyed loving and being loved until–that moment we realize we might not be loved unless we change something to fit someone else’s comfort zone.

The more we realize that we risk losing love unless we meet certain “conditions” that someone else demands of us, the more we understand that unconditional love might only be wishful thinking; a fantasy perhaps or an unreachable dream. Yet we need love. So we move on in the quest of a lifetime.

We are in many different kinds of relationships. For so many humans, it seems to boil down to one or more of several choices: 1) Stay in  relationships that we know are not meeting our “needs ” for unconditional love/acceptance,    2) Argue and struggle with someone and desperately try to keep the connection, 3) Retreat into being less than we truly are so “love” will not go away, 4) Try to “change” or manipulate the other person to meet our needs, 5) Settle for all the difficulties in a relationship but stay in it because we fear the consequences of leaving, or 6) Leave a relationship and begin the search for love all over again.

Why does the love we seek seem to be so elusive? We think we’ve found it and that feels so good; only to see it fade away when either we cannot meet the conditions of others, or they just don’t meet my conditions for love.

Does unconditional love exist or not? Two people who’ve stayed together for a long time is not proof of that. Or, just maybe, they have found a relationship wherein both partners continually choose to grow, to change, to become more, to love deeply, to keep challenging and encouraging the other to be all they can be–TOGETHER!

One issue is very clear here on this human plane of existence. Love does not mean that we never need to change. Far too many times love comes with conditions. When another person makes demands of us we are faced with choosing to stay or not. Far too often love seems to work until the “mirror effect” happens. When the other person, by some action or reaction, reflects back to me what I don’t love about myself, or I do the same for them, then what? Do we attack the other just to “save” our own image of what we think we are or are we willing to sit down together and love each other through the issues at hand and take another step forward in that relationship wherein we choose to love each other “just as we are” while knowing we can grow together.

Then the question arises: Will we be able to continue this relationship or will an issue arise that will end it? What does unconditional love really mean? Love without limits? Love without difficulties? Blind pretense? Or is there more?

Looking into a mirror, do we love the person we see without condition? What do we not love about our own self? Why that? For that is what will show up in the mirror of any relationship. What do we do with the parts of ourselves that we are not able to embrace?

At times we’ve all wondered if there is a source of unconditional love or not. We long for that but we know that on the human level, unconditional love is extremely rare if it exists at all. All of our human relationships and experiences with people seem to tell us that we are reaching for that “impossible dream.”

As long as we see ourselves as only human and limited to the time and space where we live, we will miss the deeper truth. That truth is that WE ARE MORE THAN JUST HUMAN here on a temporary physical planet. We are much, much more.

It is not possible for many people, to speak of love without referencing some god/God as being involved in their understand of what love is. But why? There is no way that some invisible angry “God” up in the sky can tell us about love. At least that is true when we listen to some of the loudest voices that try to tell us about that loving/hating “God.” The same voices that talk about a  “God” who loves us UNCONDITIONALLY,  immediately puts a condition on that love–“believe or else.”

This happens when humans project their own inner “stuff” onto some god up in the sky and then try to tell us that they know more about what that “God” requires than we do–so shut up and listen.

Instead, let’s listen to another voice–the voice deep within us that tells us the truth about love. The real Jesus did not teach about an angry god somewhere out there. He taught of The Divine Within–the reality for every human being. We are Divine beings, here on the planet and very capable of loving out of that Source of love that we are. Love is who we are! Love is what we are! We can choose to learn of our Divinity (not how bad we are) and we can learn to access our Divine Self. Herein is great hope. Herein is the healing we seek and the Love we long to know. Interested?

For details on all this and how to claim your Divine Self, see my website at See also my book: Creating Intimate Relationships: The Secret of Shared Divinity on Amazon or my website as a download.

–Jim Stacey (All Rights Reserved)